Nov 20, 2011
Ten ways to show people you love them:
- Listen without interrupting. (Proverbs 18) – When someone is speaking, the most loving thing we can do is listen. And, if we are really listening, we are not thinking of how to respond or how to get our point across or asking questions or saying anything. We are simply listening to hear and understand what the person is saying. So, the next time you are listening to someone, wait until
Nov 05, 2011
Getting a good night’s sleep is vital to feeling energetic and making the most of our days. Some nights, even though we are very tired it is difficult to get to sleep because there is so much going on in our minds. When this happens, we feel stressed and that makes it even more difficult to get some rest.
Here is a list of techniques you may want to use to clear your mind before bed:
1. Write a list of what you need to do the next day. Having the list helps to let go of worrying that you will forget to do something.
2. Practice yoga. Practicing yoga takes concentration …
Oct 29, 2011
There are many different types of meditation practices. Most familiar, perhaps, are mantra meditation, Mindfulness of Breathing, Metta Bhavana (Development of Loving Kindness), and the candle meditation. Recently I was asked by a student if I thought she should add a third meditation practice to the two forms of meditation she already practices. As a “good teacher”, I responded to her question with a list of questions to consider before she made her decision. I hope these questions will be helpful to you as well, if you are considering adding other practices to your meditation repertoire.
Regarding adding another form of meditation to your meditation practice – there are differing …
Oct 01, 2011
One of the most valuable things we have is peace of mind.
When we are not feeling peaceful, our mind may be racing, or we may be thinking obsessively, and we are likely feeling stressed and frantic.
Meditation, even for only a few minutes, can be the key to your peace of mind.
Have you ever had trouble concentrating on a project, or falling asleep at night because your mind is racing or you are obsessing over a problem?
It seems that the mind has a mind of its own! Meditation is a method to tame the mind and bring a sense of peace and serenity.
The next time your mind is moving like …
Sep 25, 2011
Parents who listen to their children help them to know what that have to say matters.,
Active listening is a skill that goes beyond just hearing words. It takes energy and understanding what feelings are beneath the words — the emotions and context within which the words are framed.
Here are some tips for active listening:
1. Give your child your entire attention. Don’t be thinking of what you will say when it is your turn to speak.
2. Maintain eye contact and make sure your body language …
Sep 16, 2011
Over the years what I thought about and desired as a means to gaining happiness have changed as I have… matured (I like the word matured better than aged). Here is my list, organized by decades.
0-10 I wanted to be cared for, safe, nourished and nurtured to be happy (although I could not articulate all this at the time).
11-20 I wanted friendships, fun, freedom, popularity, a car and someone interesting and sexy to date.
Sep 09, 2011
Bringing mindfulness to work allows us to:
- be more focused
- feel less stressed
- communicate more effectively
- bring compassion to the workplace and
- feel confident at work.
When considering how we approach work, we can ask ourselves:
- How do I relate to myself?
- Am I aware of my thoughts, feelings and actions or do I run on automatic pilot?
- How do I relate to my colleagues, coworkers and boss?
- Am I kind, friendly and compassionate or do I need to have my own way?
- How do I relate to my work? Do I bring curiosity and creativity to my work or is it just a means to a paycheck?
Here are twenty ways to bring mindfulness with you to work:
1. Set an …
Aug 16, 2011
It is difficult to let go of worries. The very nature of worrying seems to keep the mind busy, thinking of the concern over and over again. The more we think about the concern, the more anxious we feel, but there is a way to free the mind from worries.
I live in New England and my sons, who visited for Christmas last December, were traveling during a blizzard. I worried about them. Would they be warm enough? Would they make their travel accommodations on time? Would the transport be safe?
I have worried before and have found that the worrying is not a good use of energy – after all, …
Aug 09, 2011
We live in a world filled with input from television, radios, the Internet, social networks, email, news broadcasts, newspapers, magazines, white papers, books, Kindles, movies and more.
Our society is fast paced and we are proud of our ability to multitask. We begin our days by listening to the news as we get dressed in the morning. On the way to work or school, we listen to the radio in the car and use ear phones to listen to music or talk on our cell phones.
Our days are filled with talking, doing, accomplishing, gathering, spending, earning, and accumulating facts, relationships and material things. We are fast becoming human doings rather …
Jul 24, 2011
With all that thinking, worrying, justifying, wondering, story telling, imagining, assuming, compulsive activity – it is a wonder we actually get anything done in a mindful way. But there is hope. There is a way to stop your mind from wandering.
Meditation and mindfulness are two buzz words that nearly everyone is familiar with. In a world where multitasking is considered a positive trait necessary for working, it is fascinating that there is so much interest in meditation and mindfulness – which are …