Wildmind Buddhist Meditation

Follow us!

Follow us on social media sites, using RSS, on a Kindle, or on our iPhone app.


Blog

“Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha,” by Tara Brach

book cover Available from Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk.

This will be a very helpful and practical book for many people, dealing as it does with how we can work with our feelings of unworthiness in order to transform them through awareness. It’s a much needed book as well, since this is a topic that traditional Buddhism scarcely touches on, self-loathing being a particularly western phenomenon (the Dalai Lama was completely perplexed when told that many westerners had problems with self-hatred, and had never come across this amongst eastern Buddhists).

Brach introduces various tools to help deal with the scourge of self-hatred, and incidentally introduces the very moving stories of some of her patients who have worked through these issues using those same tools. I really was close to tears as I witnessed people accepting feelings that they had been running from for years, and making strides towards self-acceptance.

First and foremost amongst the tools offered is of course mindfulness, which introduces into our experience what Brach calls a “sacred pause”. Mindfulness is a nonreactive state of mind that avoids running away from or indulging in our problematic emotions, allowing us to fully acknowledge what is present. Brach teaches how to use an awareness of the body to escape from the “trance of unworthiness”. She teaches the metta bhavana (development of lovingkindness) and the closely related Tibetan Tonglen meditation practices, in order to cultivate more self-love, as well as the karuna bhavana (development of compassion) to help us become less self-absorbed. And lastly she touches on the Tibetan practice of Dzogchen, or “great perfection” which involves relaxing into an awareness of the mind’s inherent purity.

Over the course of this book then, we are taken from learning to acknowledge and accept who we are, including our self-hatred and sense of unworthiness, to seeing the inherent purity of the mind that Buddhism says is always there beneath the surface. At every stage of the way, Brach supplies meditation exercises (sometimes more than one per chapter) to help make the material experiential rather than merely theoretical.

And in making her points she quotes widely; from Sufis, modern western poets like David Whyte and T.S. Eliot, and from teachers from all of the Buddhist traditions — Theravadin, Tibetan, and Zen — from past and present. In fact the breadth of her knowledge is quite astonishing, and I felt privileged to be given a glimpse into so many different worlds, all unified within a single perspective.

The tone throughout is compassionate and confessional, and in showing how she has worked through her own difficulties Brach gives one of the highest teachings that anyone has to offer — that of exemplifying the path.

Like it? Share it!

Share on Google+Share on FacebookShare on LinkedInEmail this to someoneShare on StumbleUponPin on PinterestTweet about this on Twitter

Read other articles on:

Related articles

Comments

avatar

Comment from Mita
Time: August 15, 2008, 11:53 pm

I love Tara Brach’s warm heartfelt insights and experiential wisdom and personally relate to her work. My own journey to wholeness began with acceptance of self and others in radical ways. I am wondering though whether the source of self-loathing coming of something missing within us is conditined somehow by abuse of freudian psychoanalysis as elaborated in the google video “century of self’.

peace
http://www.seek2know.net

avatar

Comment from Bodhipaksa
Time: August 17, 2008, 11:40 am

I haven’t watched that particular video, but I do think that Freudian ideas have been unhelpful in some ways to many people. I’ve often met people who think that something is wrong if they are happy! The underlying idea there is that all the messy id-stuff is what is really real, and that if you’re happy you’re simply repressing difficult experiences. Believing that every impulse you have comes ultimately from sexual desire and from hatred is a perfect recipe for self-loathing.

The Buddhist view tends to be more that it’s positive emotions that are more fundamental to our nature, and that destructive emotions are more superficial. The idea that bodhi is possible comes from that way of seeing things — if what was more real was all the bad stuff there would be no hope of enlightenment.

Leave a comment