Apr 05, 2006
Maya Angelou: “I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver.”
It’s been an interesting process, deciding (as an experiment) to make our courses available on a donation basis rather than having fixed charges.
Why did we decide to do this? Well, we like the idea of being generous by allowing people to participate in our courses in return for whatever they feel moved to give, and we also like the idea of giving people the opportunity to practice generosity themselves. What a great start to a relationship is could be to say to people, “Come on board. Join us. Take what you need and give what you can.”
Although we’ve always been flexible with our class fees, allowing people to take our courses for little or nothing if they request it, a fee is still a fee; it’s still us saying to a potential student, “Give us the money and we’ll teach you.” We felt very happy to experiment in this way.
But it’s been challenging as well. Quite a few people have given very small amounts – some have given as little as a dollar – and we’ve had to come to terms with that. Our initial response was, to be honest, “They’ve got to be kidding! Here we are offering them in-depth personal feedback and guidance from an experienced meditation teacher for a month, and these people think that’s worth less than a cup of coffee!”
We wondered what to do when people offered such small amounts. After all, it costs us about $90 for each student who participates in the course: teachers need housing, food, transport, clothes, medical insurance. What were these people thinking? Could they really only afford a dollar? Had they misunderstood that this course involved personal feedback? Were they trying to rip us off? Could we have communicated ourselves better? Might this whole experiment be a big mistake?
In the end though, we realized that it was liberating to let go of attachment to the idea that people “should” give us a certain amount. Sure, we have needs, but let’s take people on board first, establish a relationship, and then see where that goes. If people have misunderstood and thought that perhaps they were just paying for a PDF download or something of that nature, then at least we’ll be able to explain what our costs are and they’ll have an opportunity to consider giving more. And if they could only afford a dollar, then fine, we’re happy to accept that if it’s all they can afford to give. That’s what we’ve always done.
So we’re giving this experiment a shot. And you know what? So far Maya Angelou is right, and giving has been liberating.