Jul 31, 2014
Love tends to join and hate to separate, but joining is not the same as love, and separation is not hatred. Sometimes the most loving thing a person can do is take a step back: that’s distance in the service of attachment. And it’s not loving to join in invasive or smothering ways. Most people want both closeness and independence. Intimacy and autonomy in all their forms: your course in life is shaped by how well you regulate their dance in your mind, and their expression in your relationships.
Harms can be done to yourself and others in the name of autonomy and intimacy, so it’s important …
Jul 31, 2014
Karen Schwartz, Associated Press: A very pregnant Juliana Berger took a five-day trip with her husband and didn’t speak to him once.
They weren’t fighting. They were attending a silent retreat.
Berger, 33, a web developer, had attended a number of silent retreats over the past decade. Her husband, Jonathan Mann, a 32-year-old songwriter, had never been.
Like so many people these days, the New York-based couple wanted a break from the stress of daily life.
“I thought the stillness would help me connect with my baby,” said Berger, who was nearly eight months pregnant at the time.
Silent meditation transcends most religious traditions, …
Jul 29, 2014
Heather Fuselier, Tallahassee Democrat: My husband and I stood at the meat counter at The Fresh Market recently, trying to decide what to grill for dinner.
Chief among the determining factors was the environment in which we would be eating our meal: with our children or without. I didn’t want to spend the money and time on preparing filet mignon and then try to eat it in three bites while also negotiating the taste buds of my third-grader and feeding the bottomless pit my toddler has become. In other words, I wanted to eat more mindfully and enjoy my meal, rather than just …
Jul 28, 2014
David Mendosa, Mendosa.com: Last night my thoughts returned again and again to a missing package. The sender had written me that my order had been delivered, but I hadn’t received it. I tried and tried to suppress that thought and to get back to sleep. Finally, meditation helped.
This was for me a painful example of what psychologists call “thought suppression.” Like many people, I have experienced thought suppression lots of times. But I don’t remember having read about this concept before starting to prepare this article, which reviews a new study of how meditation and mindfulness can help people with diabetes and …
Jul 25, 2014
Do you express the intention as a goal or as something already realized?
This gets at a recurring question, even a debate, in Buddhism (and also in psychology and in some religions): Is it about progressing toward an enlightened state, or is it about uncovering the enlightened condition that has always been present? I can’t do justice here to the nuances of that consideration, but I can say what many wise people think is at the marrow of the matter: both are true. (Darn that middle way.)
In other words, it is powerful to focus on intention both as an aim toward a target, and as something that is already the case. The …
Jul 24, 2014
Wildmind needs to raise at least $3000 before the end of July, and preferably a bit more since $3000 would just allow us to scrape by.
Right now we have a financial crisis. The end of the month is coming and we don’t have enough in the bank to pay our staff. That’s rather worrying for all of us on a personal level, for obvious reasons.
(This has been an unusual month for Wildmind, financially. I’ll put a note with more details below.)
Anything you can contribute would be most welcome. You’d not just be helping those of us who work at Wildmind (Mark, Amy, and myself), …
Jul 24, 2014
Natalia Karelaia, INSEAD: Mindfulness is practiced in board rooms from Silicon Valley to Wall Street. But just how much does it improve the quality of your decision-making?
Five years ago when I introduced mindfulness to my MBA decision-making class it was perceived as something completely esoteric; there were maybe two or three students who could relate to the concept. Today, not only have most of them heard about it, many are practicing it. More and more corporations are offering mindfulness training to their employees. It’s being incorporated into negotiation techniques and leadership manuals, in fact every area of business where strong decisions are …
Jul 23, 2014
Just a few moments of meditation a day found to have profound, near-instant benefits on stress reduction
J. D. Heyes, Epoch Times: So-called “mindfulness meditation” has become increasingly popular as a method of improving your mental and physical health, but most of the research that supports or substantiates its benefits has primarily focused on lengthy, weeks-long training programs.
However, new research from Carnegie Mellon University has become the first body of work to demonstrate that even brief mindfulness mediation practice – just 25 minutes a day for three consecutive days – can mitigate psychological stressors.
The research, which was published in the journal Psychoneuroenocrinology, examined how mindfulness medication can affect people’s ability to be resilient under stress.
“More and more people …
Jul 22, 2014
Denise Dador, ABC7.com: A first-of-its kind study focuses on the parents of kids with special-needs. The thought of providing life-long care to a child brings on many stresses from financial to emotional.
Now researchers say having a stress relief tool at your disposal may give all parents the grounding they need.
Getting centered is one of Marianne Kehler’s strengths. At age two, her 18-year-old son Liam was diagnosed with a severe form of autism. For years, she needed to protect Liam from himself.
“Many households of individuals with autism can be like a warzone,” Marianne said. “He would self-injure. As a consequence, others …
Jul 18, 2014
On my son Narayan’s sixth birthday, I gave him an ant farm. He spent hours watching with fascination as the little creatures magically created their network of tunnels. He even named several, and followed their struggles and progress closely.
After a few weeks, he pointed out the ants’ graveyard, and watched with wonder as several of them dragged the bodies of their dead comrades and deposited them there. The following day, when I picked Narayan up after school, he was visibly distressed: on the playground, the kids had made a game out of stepping on ants. My son couldn’t understand why his classmates were hurting these friends he so admired.
I tried to …