Wildmind Buddhist Meditation

Lovingkindness Meditation

Sit : Love : Give

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More on stage one

flowerWe suggest learning this meditation practice one stage at a time. After all, there’s no hurry. Wildmind is not going to go away.

Sometimes I find people assume that learning a skill involves the same processes as learning information. Much of what we learn in school is information — facts that we memorize and recall. But that doesn’t translate when it comes to learning meditation.

We’ve all no doubt had the experience of “cramming” before an exam and forcing ourselves to read and recall (with varying degrees of success) large amounts of information. Often we forget that information as soon as the exam’s over, but it is possible to learn a large amount of information in a short period of time.

Learning a skill’s not like that. Meditation involves unlearning old habits and training the mind to work in a different way. This takes time.

So why not spend a few days just doing stage one for ten to fifteen minutes? You might even want to do it more than once a day — the more often you do it, the more effect it will have.

Listening to the RealAudio files will support you in developing a regular practice.

You can also explore some of the links in this section. They will give you valuable information about this stage of the practice. Then you can come back and learn the second stage of the practice.

Comments

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Comment from Deborah Lane McGuire
Time: February 3, 2014, 2:06 pm

I’ve been working on stage one for 3 days, once per day, and find it increasingly more difficult. I guess my mind is resistant to the emotion I feel. Today my heart was beating too fast while I practiced, and that set off some anxiety. Should I be overly concerned over this at this early stage of learning?

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Comment from Bodhipaksa
Time: February 4, 2014, 8:08 pm

Hi, Deborah.

No, it’s quite normal to have this kind of response. After all, we’re learning about ourselves, and learning anything can be stressful. When there’s some anxiety present, as there was for you, then you can smile, and wish yourself well, and let your body relax as best you can. And watch where you’re breathing. Make sure that you’re breathing into the belly.

All the best,
Bodhipaksa

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Comment from Deborah Lane McGuire
Time: February 4, 2014, 9:11 pm

Thank you for the reassurance. Today’s session went much more smoothly and peacefull.

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Comment from Deborah Lane McGuire
Time: February 5, 2014, 5:11 pm

Every day seems to be a bit better, the resistance is dissipating. Thank you for your help, Bodhipaksa.

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