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Receptivity and activity

dropping flowers in a still forest pool

flowers

When you contact your emotions, think of them as being like a still pool of water in a forest. Like a pool of water, your emotions are alive and vibrant; ready to quiver at the slightest touch.

Being aware of the vibrations in the pool of your emotions is receptivity. You’re being receptive to whatever influences your emotions.

The thoughts that you are consciously generating — the words, phrases, memories, and guided fantasies that you are using in the Metta Bhavana practice — are your activity. You’re using those methods to have an effect on your emotions.

Activity is like the hand that drops flowers, one by one, into the pool. Receptivity is like watching the ripples on the water as they spread out and fade.

You can use this image in your practice. It’s an analogy that will help you to deepen your appreciation of what the practice is achieving.

When I use the phrase “May I be well, may I be happy, may I be free from suffering,” I like to drop each part of the phrase in separately, as if it were an individual flower. I drop in “May I be well,” and then pause for a complete breath to watch for the ripples in my emotions. Then I say “May I be happy,” and pause again to feel any effect from the phrase. Then I do the same with “May I be free from suffering.”

Be patient. It may take time to attune yourself to the effects of the practice. But as you strengthen and deepen your awareness you’ll be able to feel the effects on your emotions every time you say the phrase “May I be well.”

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Comment from Jo
Time: July 7, 2013, 7:28 am

Hi Bodhipaksa,
I’ve been working my way through your book and I am up to stage 2 of the Meta Bhavana. I have been using the image of dropping flowers (with the traditional words) into a forest pool, which is my heart, and watching/feeling the ripples of each emotion until they come to stillness.

When I come to the second stage I am finding it more difficult. I am trying to use the same image but I am confused whether I am dropping flowers into my own heart to develop metta for the good friend, or am I dropping the flowers into their heart?
Thanks,
J

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Comment from Bodhipaksa
Time: July 7, 2013, 8:34 am

Hi, Jo.

Well, what you’re actually doing is dropping the metta phrases into your own heart-mind (the BUddhist word “citta” covers both), and the flower image is just to help you get a feel for how you might do that. So when it comes to the second stage you’re still dropping the phrases into your own heart-mind, but at the same time you’re thinking of a friend, so that any “ripples” are affecting your relationship with them. If you want to incorporate that into the imagery, you could always imagine your friend sitting by the side of the pond, and the ripples washing over toward them. But if trying to conjure up imagery becomes a distraction, you can just think of your friend while dropping in phrases like “May you be well…”

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