Bodhipaksa
Jan 20, 2012
Be happy so that others may be happy
Saddhamala wrote the other day about how we “catch” emotions from others. As she points out, this happens when you’re hanging around someone who is negative, and it brings you down, and that it even happens when we watch a movie!
So this is definitely a part of our experience.
You may not have realized, though, just how infectious our emotions are. The effect of one person’s emotions — whether negative or positive — can be measured as they ripple outward through our friendships and contacts.
Let’s deal with the negative first.
An important study by University of Chicago psychologist John Cacioppo showed that lonely people tend to …
Saddhamala
Jan 19, 2012
Positivity is contagious
Are you a movie buff? Do you enjoy going to a theater, watching a movie and getting caught up in the plot and relating with the characters and leaving your own plot behind?
When you watch a movie about climbing mountains, and you are afraid of heights, does the fear of the situation cause your heart to race and your palms to sweat?
These are examples of how energy and feelings are contagious.
And have you noticed that when you are with someone who is negative, you feel negative too?
This frequently happens when someone is talking in a negative way, or complaining, about someone or a situation.
Listening to negativity and complaints is …
Saddhamala
May 08, 2011
How to clear your mind of negative thoughts
The mind is like a wild elephant that needs taming. If you have ever meditated and tried to quiet your mind, you will have experienced your thoughts as continuous and difficult to manage.
We worry, we obsess about the same things over and over again, we are anxious about things that never happen, we want more than we have, or something different from what we have, and we have expectations of ourselves and others that may never be met.
What we think creates the world we live in. When we think negatively about ourselves and others, we do not experience the beauty and joy that can be found within ourselves and others.
One of …
Saddhamala
Feb 05, 2011
Is there a link between gratitude and happiness?
Research suggests that people who feel gratitude benefit in the following ways:
1. happier
2. less depressed
3. less stressed
4. more satisfied with their lives and social relationships
5. aware of their purpose in life
6. self confident
7. positive
8. able to cope with the difficulties in positive ways
9. more likely to seek support from other people, and
10. able to learn and grow from their experiences.
It has been said that gratitude is strongly linked with mental health. Several times in my life I have kept a gratitude journal, in which I have …

