empathy

Self-love, self-kindness, and non-self

Someone wrote to me recently and asked two questions, which boiled down to: Did the Buddha teach self-love? Is loving…

March 7, 2025

12 Ways to respond to unkindness with kindness

I came across this on Mastodon (the BEST social media platform), shared by user Vee, and thought it was really…

September 3, 2024

Can empathy be unhelpful?

One of the members of Wildmind's community reminded me recently of an article, "The Surprising Downsides of Empathy," that appeared…

February 20, 2023

The thing you may sometimes confuse with true kindness

Someone recently wrote to me sharing his reservations about the use of the word "love" to translate metta. Metta is…

June 1, 2021

Meditating with pets

I have a daily Zoom meditation group as part of Wildmind’s Meditation Initiative, and there are often a few pets…

January 22, 2021

“Love your enemies” as a calling

This summer I read a book by Arthur C. Brooks, who until recently was president of a conservative think tank,…

September 24, 2019

Poison in the sugar-bowl

Many, many years ago, when I was in my twenties, I was at the apartment of a newly divorced woman…

September 5, 2019

Four steps to self-empathy and self-kindness

One thing that's changed my life more than any other is the practice of self-empathy. Simply hearing the term for…

August 8, 2018

The secret to self-discipline is having empathy for your future self

In general, we human beings have trouble doing things that are good for our long-term wellbeing, but which may be…

April 28, 2018

Lovingkindness: Connection before cultivation

One of the emphases in my teaching of lovingkindness is what might be called connection before cultivation. Basically this is…

July 15, 2016