Going for Refuge

Step six: Placing positive values at the centre of our lives

When I reflect deeply on this step, I can see how unreliable my addictions are. In the end they bring…

July 6, 2015

Get over it

So I have survived one month of mentorship through my own programme of ‘Eight Step Recovery.’ I’ve relapsed twice, and…

May 4, 2015

A heart that is ready for anything

When the Buddha was dying, he gave a final message to his beloved attendant Ananda, and to generations to come:…

March 5, 2015

Taking refuge in the Buddha

As a teacher I’m often asked: What does it mean in Buddhist practice when you agree to “take refuge” in…

July 10, 2013

What is at the center of your life?

In the 12-step tradition of Alcoholics Anonymous it clearly states in the third step that we need to make a…

July 1, 2013

An uncertain refuge

I remember the day I realized I was an atheist. I was sitting on an S-Bahn in Stuttgart, reading Richard…

March 29, 2013

Presence in the face of dying

At the end of a daylong meditation workshop, Pam, a woman in her late sixties, drew me aside. Her husband,…

August 30, 2012

Finding true refuge

My earliest memories of being happy are of playing in the ocean. When our family began going to Cape Cod…

August 21, 2012

The Fourth Truth: There is a path that leads us away from suffering

I used to be confused about why the third truth came before the fourth. And I realize now that if…

July 2, 2012

Coming home to the sacred

The word "sacred" has two kinds of meanings. First, it can refer to something related to religion or spirituality. Second,…

April 27, 2012