grief

Reflections on the death of my mother

It's my birthday today, and it's unlike any I can remember from my now 63 years on this planet. It's…

January 4, 2024

Grief as a spiritual practice

My sister, Fiona, passed away last month, unexpectedly. Yes, she was being treated for cancer, and had been for several…

November 3, 2022

Dharma lessons I learned from my cat

I lost my beloved orange cat Rusty last June. There’s something about a relationship with a pet that’s so different…

May 23, 2021

Buddhism, grief, and loss

Recently a meditation student who's only just begun practicing wrote to say that she'd experienced a bereavement. She wondered if…

September 30, 2014

“Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.” Rainer Maria Rilke

A woman on the Triratna Buddhist Community's Urban Retreat, which this year focused on the theme of cultivating lovingkindness, or…

November 18, 2013

From longing to belonging

The great Tibetan yogi Milarepa spent many years living in isolation in a mountain cave. As part of his spiritual…

July 17, 2013

Sorrow is failed compassion (Day 28)

I've had more people asking me about the "near enemy" of compassion. So here goes... The "near enemy" is, by…

May 9, 2013

Defending against loss

The Buddha taught that we spend most of our life like children in a burning house, so entranced by our…

March 4, 2013

Yoga, meditation helps heal grief

People cope with the death of a loved one in different ways. A local woman is using mind-body therapies such…

March 8, 2010