self-care

Join me in “As the World Falls Apart”

I am launching a major new course for 2026, on the topic of how we deal with political turmoil. Here's…

January 6, 2026

Can empathy be unhelpful?

One of the members of Wildmind's community reminded me recently of an article, "The Surprising Downsides of Empathy," that appeared…

February 20, 2023

Self-compassion and self-care

It's funny — I've known since I was 13 that January is named for the god Janus, who has two faces:…

January 2, 2023

The third arrow

The weekend that my wife told me she wanted a divorce, she took our kids away so that she could…

February 5, 2019

Kindness to you is kindness to me; kindness to me is kindness to you

I usually describe a practice as something to do: get on your own side, see the being behind the eyes,…

June 11, 2014

Get out of the war

What are you fighting? By “war” I mean here a mindset, not combat between nations with tanks and bombs. The…

July 15, 2013

Kindness is not weakness

Recently I received a few questions about the relationship between lovingkindness and "toughness." 1. When practicing lovingkindness, how do you…

November 19, 2012

Mindfulness and energy

Have you ever noticed that when you are with some people you feel energized and when you are with other…

May 3, 2011

Stress: What can we do about it?

Keith Upchurch, Herald-Sun, Durham, NC: Everyone has stress in their lives, but how you handle it makes all the difference,…

February 23, 2011