thoughts & feelings

“This is just how things are right now”

I've been practicing and teaching self-compassion for a long time now. My book on that topic, "This Difficult Thing of…

December 2, 2025

How to recognize, respect, and love the demon, Māra

This is the first time I've posted here in a while. Virtually all of my energy is going into supporting…

April 14, 2022

Eleanor Roosevelt: “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Eleanor Roosevelt is often credited with saying "Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent." As a bit of…

October 12, 2020

Seeing experience as a movie

In my last post I said I'd been teaching meditations based on a Buddhist discourse called the Honeyball or Honeycake Sutta.…

November 23, 2018

What to do when you feel unloved

Someone recently wrote to me, saying that she was lonely and felt unloved, and wondering whether the metta bhavana practice…

May 27, 2016

How to create calmness by observing thoughtspace and feelingspace

I was teaching a class the other night and after a guided meditation one woman said she'd found it hard…

April 9, 2016

Going forth: a look at step six again

Watch your thoughts; they become stories. Watch your stories; they become excuses. Watch your excuses; they become relapses. Watch your…

February 1, 2016

Meditation can help children learn to manage emotions

Dr. Manoj Jain, The Tennessean: This summer’s Disney-Pixar movie “Inside Out” makes us think about our thinking. But, I wonder,…

September 3, 2015

Self-compassion: lovingkindness squared

Self-compassion is the most radically transformative practice that I’ve stumbled upon in more than 30 years of exploring Buddhism. It’s…

April 2, 2015

Relating to your inner doom-monger

  I just wanted to share a couple of things I've been doing recently to deal with the part of…

March 11, 2015