wisdom

Can empathy be unhelpful?

One of the members of Wildmind's community reminded me recently of an article, "The Surprising Downsides of Empathy," that appeared…

February 20, 2023

The five spiritual faculties: freedom in every moment

Buddhism is full of lists: the three trainings, the four foundations of mindfulness, the five skandhas, the eightfold path, the…

January 30, 2023

“Aging with Wisdom: Reflections, Stories and Teachings” by Olivia Ames Hoblitzelle

The book’s title describes a daunting challenge. For our aging to have the blessing of bringing us wisdom – who…

March 17, 2019

The third arrow

The weekend that my wife told me she wanted a divorce, she took our kids away so that she could…

February 5, 2019

Taking your hands off the controls

As living organisms anxious about our existence, we’re all naturally rigged to want to manage our lives with the goal…

April 8, 2015

The art of self-forgiveness

Everyone messes up. Me, you, the neighbors, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, King David, the Buddha, everybody. It’s important to acknowledge…

October 10, 2014

Mindfulness and the big picture

Someone asked me: I keep hearing about mindfulness where one needs to pay attention to everything. But I am a…

October 3, 2014

It’s not what’s happening … it’s how you respond

One of my favorite stories took place a number of decades ago when the English had colonized India and they…

February 6, 2014

Drop the load

Are you doing too much? You may have seen the old Mickey Mouse movie in which he is working at…

July 8, 2013

Compassion and causing pain (Day 36)

The other day I wrote about "Idiot Compassion," which I described as '...avoiding conflict, letting people walk all over you,…

May 17, 2013